Imposter Syndrome: Why You’re Not a Fraud (Even if You Feel Like One) - Episode 001

Podcast Episode 001: Imposter Syndrome


Ever started a new job or landed an opportunity and thought, “Any minute now, they’re going to figure out I don’t belong here”? Like you somehow stumbled into success and it's only a matter of time before everyone finds out? That nagging doubt? That’s imposter syndrome.

Listen, if you’ve ever caught yourself wondering, “Am I good enough for this?”—you’re not alone. Spoiler alert: You are good enough. This is your friendly reminder that you’re more ready than you think. It’s time to take up space, own your wins, and stop letting imposter syndrome hold you back. You’ve got this. Don’t worry, the irony isn’t lost on me that imposter syndrome is the very first episode of Jeans with a Blazer. I thought, oh the irony! Kicking off a career and lifestyle podcast with a topic that almost made me give up and quit while I was ahead. It comes full circle, my friends.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into what imposter syndrome really is, how to recognize if you’re actually unqualified or just second-guessing yourself, and—most importantly—how to break free from the self-doubt spiral.

Here’s what you’ll get in this episode

– What imposter syndrome actually is (and what it’s not)

– The 5 types of imposter syndrome—and how to figure out which one you might be dealing with

– How to tell the difference between being unprepared versus feeling like you don’t deserve success

– Actionable tips from a psychologist to help you move past fear and doubt

– Why “fake it till you make it” might not be the best advice—and how to replace it with something way more empowering

– My own career missteps (yep, cringey stories and all) and what they taught me about self-belief

Oh, and I’m also introducing the *Jargon Jar*—where we call out overused corporate buzzwords (this week’s culprit: “Fake it till you make it”).

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    have you ever walked into a room

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    and maybe it's a new job that you got

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    or maybe a really cool opportunity

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    and you're in the shiny new office

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    and suddenly panic sets in

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    and it's because you think about um

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    maybe I don't deserve to be here

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    and instead of celebrating this huge accomplishment

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    you look around and you think

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    at any moment someone's gonna figure it out

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    and they're gonna call you out on it

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    and you're going to feel like a huge fraud immediately

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    the fraud police is going to come and take you to fraud

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    jail or whatever

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    that feeling my friends

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    is the very complicated beast that is imposter syndrome

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    and in this episode I'm going to break down

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    why so many of us experience this phenomenon

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    and I'll also share how to tell

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    the difference between feeling like a fraud

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    and if you're actually unqualified

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    and make sure you stick around for the whole episode

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    because I talked to several experts about this

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    including a psychologist

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    and I Learned a lot about imposter syndrome

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    and what you can do to break free from that prison

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    that is your mind that I'll share with you

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    hey there I'm Melody Foes

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    your host of jeans with the blazer

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    a podcast about rewriting the rules of work and life

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    welcome to the first episode of jeans with the blazer

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    and how appropriate that this first episode is on

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    imposter syndrome first of all

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    who do I think I am to have a podcast

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    what could I possibly say

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    that hasn't already been said a million times before

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    maybe you're here because I begged you on social media

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    or maybe you're here because I bribed you

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    with a giveaway for a free iPad

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    how embarrassing for my soul

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    okay so all of that

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    that was imposter syndrome talking

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    so

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    imposter syndrome is that crippling fear of self doubt

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    in your own achievements

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    despite a proven track record of your success

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    and according to let me read this so I get this right

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    according to research from the Survey

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    Center on American Life

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    at the American Enterprise Institute yes

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    that is a real thing

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    one in three workers experience these feelings

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    related to imposter syndrome

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    although

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    I do suspect that that's a lot more than 1 and 3

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    because if we think about it

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    maybe those other 2/3

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    are scared to admit that they have imposter syndrome

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    and their imposter syndrome is

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    questioning their imposter syndrome

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    so it's like imposter syndrome exception

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    but okay 1 and 3

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    sure so

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    all of the thoughts that I shared with you earlier

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    about my own self doubts with this podcast

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    are thoughts that I have had

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    and currently have

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    but you know what

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    I decided that I'm not gonna let that stop me because

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    well 1

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    I wouldn't have a podcast episode and 2

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    more importantly

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    because these feelings of I am not good enough

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    or I don't deserve this I believe that

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    that shouldn't stop

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    anyone from creating something that they believe in

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    guys we have such a short

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    short time on this planet

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    and each of us have our own unique challenges that we

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    overcome um

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    and it ranges from so many things

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    from limited access to the higher education

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    socio economic background race gender

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    sexual orientation

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    there are so many things that we already have in our

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    way that just to even have the opportunity

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    to try is a huge win um

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    and a major privilege already

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    so to let something like self doubt

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    make you quit while you're ahead or

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    or worse quit before you even get started

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    no

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    the gifts you have are way

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    way too important to share with the world

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    and the people around you

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    and we're not gonna let that happen

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    so

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    I'm not even trying to be self righteous and say that

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    um all this stuff

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    I have to say on this podcast is a gift to you

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    uh no

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    I'm I'm actually gonna get meta for a sec

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    because if you're listening to me

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    or if you're watching on YouTube

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    first of all your time is a gift to me

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    so thank you I don't care if I sound like a cheese ball

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    but second I'm gonna be super transparent here

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    because that's what this podcast is about

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    the messy journey

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    but I actually recorded this episode twice

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    because real talk

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    I watched it back the first time and I was so nervous

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    my chin was shaking

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    like a raccoon trapped in a snack drawer

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    I said guys like we gotta do this over this

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    I we can't put this out and guess what

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    I'm sure I'm gonna look at this

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    and I'm going to judge myself super hard

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    and honestly

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    that's another entire episode right there but

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    in my mind

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    if you don't

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    take a single thing away from this podcast

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    and if you never listen to another episode again

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    if I can share one thing with you

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    that makes you feel less alone

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    or offers a thoughtful perspective

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    or even even if you laugh at me at how cringy I sound

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    I don't care if I've added anything to your day

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    in my book I've made it uh

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    so if you have the chance to create something new

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    uh apply for that job that promotion

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    write that book paint that painting uh

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    pick up a camera and start photography

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    do not stand in your own way

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    cause there will be a million people in line

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    waiting to tear you down

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    so don't be your own worst enemy easier said than done

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    but we're gonna get into it

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    okay so

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    now that we

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    know that you are an unstoppable force of nature

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    why should you spend your very precious time

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    listening to me talk about imposter syndrome

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    well I have some solutions

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    and insights that I Learned from chatting with a

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    psychologist and it was for an article that I wrote

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    about imposter syndrome

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    but I'm kicking things off with a

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    extremely embarrassing story about a career fail

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    a professional fail that I had and guys it's messy

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    I'll keep it short

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    cause we got a lot of stuff to go into

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    but at the worst you'll feel better about yourself

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    that this didn't happen to you

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    and at best

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    you'll learn a cautionary tale about how one

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    young woman refused to let a setback keep her down

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    blah blah and by setback I was on Dulu Island

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    I'm sharing my trauma so just pull up a chair

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    let's get into it okay so early in my career

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    I was working in a corporate office

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    it was my first grown up big girl job after college

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    it had floor to ceiling windows uh had a swipe badge

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    I thought this is it I've made it give me a year

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    I'm gonna be CEO running this place oh miss girl

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    oh miss girl

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    the reality of the corporate world hit me hard

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    and I love the people that I worked with

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    and I genuinely enjoyed what I did

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    I was a writer in a marketing department

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    but I was learning

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    the rules of working in a corporate environment

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    and I was at the very bottom

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    wrong of the corporate ladder

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    I didn't understand why I had to be changed to my desk

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    for 8 hours a day

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    I didn't understand why we had meetings about meetings

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    about having meetings that could have been an email

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    and the first time I replied

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    all to an email that was not supposed to be replied

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    all to anxiety

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    and that's not even the fail that I'm going to get to

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    it gets way worse alright

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    so after a couple years of being there

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    I wanted to see what else was out there

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    so I started applying um

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    and I ended up leaving my very secure job

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    because I got an offer for more money

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    and at the time more money

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    and expanding my skill set was my primary motivator uh

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    and I Learned that this new job was not as

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    exciting as I thought it would be uh

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    first very humbling life lesson

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    the grass isn't always greener

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    so in the meantime

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    between existential crisis after existential crisis

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    I studied on how to improve my resume

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    I applied for other jobs I did a ton of interviews

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    and I was rejected over and over and over

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    but with that rejection came something really powerful

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    I Learned how to interview

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    and I Learned how to sell myself really

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    really well which is interviewing should

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    that should be taught in schools if it's not already um

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    eventually I did get an offer

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    and I took a job where I somehow

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    convince the people that interviewed me that I could

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    run their company's marketing department okay

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    I was like two years in at this point

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    if that's any illusion to where this goes

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    just buckle up so uh so this isn't a huge company

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    it had like maybe 80 people in it

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    but it was growing fast um

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    they were in the engineering space uh

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    so they didn't actually have a marketing department

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    when I got hired uh

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    but I had a very fancy title

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    I had my own office is big goals

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    and I had a direct report uh

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    it wasn't intern uh

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    and she was God she was so smart um

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    but you know I'll take

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    I'll take a direct report

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    doesn't matter uh guys

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    I was so horribly bad at this job

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    I was so horribly underqualified

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    and I was I

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    I knew it because I was terrified

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    each day with all of the responsibilities

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    I had a budget I never had a budget before

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    I could barely I was 25

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    I could barely budget my own life

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    I had no idea what to do

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    I would be googling what is lifetime customer value

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    which is like marketing 1:01

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    I just trying to figure it out as I went along um

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    so I was really bad at it

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    and the nail in the coffin was

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    I lost a ton of important emails for these sales leads

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    because I

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    I deleted the document that had all of them

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    cool uh

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    proficient in Microsoft Word

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    is she really we don't know uh

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    and then and then it happened

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    my literal worst career nightmare um

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    I was the marketing department

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    so I reported directly to the CEO

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    they

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    figured out that I'm probably not the best fit for this

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    job rightfully so um

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    so yeah the owner of the company

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    who was part of the decision to hire me

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    who thought I had such great promise like hmm

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    I I don't even think I was in 90 days anyway

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    I was probably let go and just like in the movies

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    I had my um

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    my box of belongings that I had to pack in my office

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    my sad little plant just like hanging out the side

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    it was fighting back tears

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    it was it was so dramatic

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    it's probably more dramatic in my head

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    but I was like this is awful

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    so dignity gone confidence non existent

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    ego humbled

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    and I thought I thought

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    this is it I'm not good enough

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    the people who are way more successful than me

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    figured out that I'm not good enough

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    I'm never going to get another job

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    if I don't die of humiliation first

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    then I'm probably going to be homeless

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    but guess what

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    all these things were stories that I was telling myself

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    and yes rooted in an actual genuine fear

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    but those things you know

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    could only happen if I really

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    truly allowed myself to give up and accept

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    accept defeat um

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    so

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    what I did is I spent the next month applying to jobs

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    fixing up my resume

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    had like 15 different versions of my resume

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    I'm applying to more jobs

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    literally 20 to 30 jobs a day

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    I would post up in Starbucks

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    I was I was that girl that would order like a coffee

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    I respect the barista so I got more than one coffee

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    but I would literally coat like just post up there

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    apply to jobs all day um

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    and uh I could share a whole

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    more embarrassing stories about that

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    but eventually I landed another job that was

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    I was so awesome

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    and it was aligned with my experience level

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    my salary expectations um

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    and it just kind of kicked my career and honestly

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    my life in a new direction

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    so that would not have happened if I had not failed

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    so horrifically bad

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    okay but one thing I want to be super clear is

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    this whole ordeal that I just shared

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    this is not imposter syndrome

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    no and I know that sounds contradictory

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    but remember if we go back to the original definition

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    of what imposter syndrome is

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    it's when you doubt yourself

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    despite your competency

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    and proven track record of ability

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    so it's when you're capable

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    it's when you're skilled and experienced

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    yet you still feel like a fraud

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    but in my case I wasn't suffering from self doubt

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    in the face of success no

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    I was genuinely lacking experience and qualifications

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    and I was humbled because of it

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    that's not imposter syndrome

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    that is being new to something

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    and learning the hard way

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    there's a difference

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    so how do you know the difference between

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    if you're suffering from actual imposter

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    syndrome or if you're

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    if you're genuinely in over your head

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    and you can't do it uh

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    I'll tell you

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    so at the time of this episode being published

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    there is currently a labor shortage in the US

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    and that can work in your favor

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    because employers

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    are having to get a little creative with what they're

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    uh expecting um

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    and the days of having a perfect resume

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    that aligns with

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    I don't even know if that was ever the truth

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    but

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    you don't need to have a perfect resume

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    that fits the job description

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    just identically if you can look at a job description

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    and feel like you qualify for

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    80% of it you're ready uh

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    you don't need to be 100% uh

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    maybe you need to learn a few more skills

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    or maybe you've been working kind of in a similar role

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    and you just haven't gotten that shot yet um

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    can

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    you look at the technical programs that are listed in

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    the job listing

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    and maybe even feel moderately proficient

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    and I would say I would say 70% of those cool um

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    it might mention other things

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    like soft skills that are required uh

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    like communication and critical thinking

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    which are all things that you can develop yourself

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    and one of the ways is to listen to this podcast

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    so got you there uh

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    so if you've been on a track in your career

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    and you study for it

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    you've had opportunities that have set you up

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    for it if your track record shows that

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    even if you're not 100% ready

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    maybe you're 80% ready for this job

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    and that's good enough um

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    you can learn those handful of skills

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    you can learn stuff on the job

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    um so in my case

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    I mean I was more like 20% there

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    I was uh

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    I was ready for the opportunity but um

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    I wasn't prepared for it

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    and it ended up working out for me

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    because I refuse to give up

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    I'm like a cockroach can't keep me down

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    but let's move on why we experience imposter syndrome

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    so I mentioned that

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    I wrote an article about imposter syndrome

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    and I'll link to it in this episode's description

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    but in order for me to understand it better

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    I had to talk to a few pros um

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    and get some quotes for the article

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    I spoke to a few people but uh

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    one particular was a psychologist

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    and she said something very interesting

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    she mentioned

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    imposter syndrome is more of a chronic experience that

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    flares up periodically

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    versus something that we can trace back to

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    a specific instance or event

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    and that same psychologist also suggested that

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    when you doubt yourself

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    it may be because you are pushing your own boundaries

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    and it's actually a sign that

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    you are learning and growing

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    so what that tells me is

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    you're taking on new responsibility

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    there's a new opportunity

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    there's a lot of change happening

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    our brains don't like change okay

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    our brains like patterns because patterns are familiar

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    it's consistent patterns are safe

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    we naturally fight change

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    um because it's hard

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    um so

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    that growth

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    mindset is a side effect of imposter syndrome

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    let's dig deeper what causes it

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    turns out it could be a number of things

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    personality traits for example

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    like if you grew up with a perfectionist mindset

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    it could also stem from things like anxiety

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    or low self esteem

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    it could also stem from your environment

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    such as your family or your caregivers

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    if they pushed you as a child to be a high achiever

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    you could have imposter syndrome

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    because you develop these unrealistic expectations

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    for yourself and that's not even your fault

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    to make things even more complicated

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    there are multiple types of imposter syndrome okay

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    there's not just one

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    it's layered in five different types

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    we have the perfectionist

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    the superhuman the expert

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    the soloist and the natural genius

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    so I wanted to keep this episode

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    as short and sweet as possible

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    but I did wanna give more information about it

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    if you so choose

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    I put together a free guide on all of these

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    going in depth on what each of the types are

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    how to know which one you might identify with

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    and if you want to check it out

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    I'll make sure it's in the details

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    of this episode for you so next

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    I wanna

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    get into something that I'm going to do in every

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    episode it's called the Jargon Jar

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    so in each episode

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    I'm going to roast common or corporate jargon

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    that is so overused and meaningless

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    and uncreative and just needs to stop

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    so in this episode fake it till you make it

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    alright

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    so I know that's not your traditional corporate jargon

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    but relevant to this week's topic um

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    fake it till you make it

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    implies that you convince yourself

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    and those around you that you are successful

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    so that you'll eventually get there

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    and it will become a reality

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    um love that for you

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    and the concept isn't really what bothers me

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    because sometimes

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    we have to figure things out as we go

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    and we don't necessarily have all the answers

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    and that's okay we get scrappy

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    I talked about being 80% there

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    um and well

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    I believe a confident mindset can

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    give us that push in the right direction

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    to take risks

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    it shouldn't replace developing your actual skills and

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    doing the work

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    I believe authenticity goes a much longer way uh

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    be honest about what you don't know

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    don't be afraid to ask questions

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    you're not faking anything

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    you're learning you're growing

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    you're you're showing up so I wanna reframe that

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    um maybe this will be the next cringy thing um

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    that I'll revisit in like a month or so

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    but face it till you make it um

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    because I got this from chat GPT

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    because confidence isn't pretending

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    it's building proof

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    alright so if you've heard a piece of Dragon lately

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    that you cannot stand and you wanna share it

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    uh send it to me

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    DM me at on social media

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    at jeans of the blazer on Instagram

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    or send an email to hello at jeans of the blazer

    483

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    com and might get featured in an upcoming episode

    484

    00:18:55,133 --> 00:18:57,233

    all right so let's get back to it

    485

    00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:00,033

    how do we get over imposter syndrome

    486

    00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:03,466

    so I mentioned before I asked a few experts

    487

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    to weigh in with some strategies they use

    488

    00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:07,800

    and recommended to help deal with it

    489

    00:19:07,966 --> 00:19:09,866

    and we know that ultimately

    490

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    imposter syndrome is just a stressor

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    uh and to get where we're going

    492

    00:19:14,933 --> 00:19:16,700

    let's travel back in time a little bit

    493

    00:19:16,766 --> 00:19:18,100

    back in the caveman days

    494

    00:19:18,100 --> 00:19:21,500

    we had to worry about things like saber tooth tigers

    495

    00:19:21,500 --> 00:19:25,166

    coming in and eating our resources and families

    496

    00:19:25,333 --> 00:19:30,600

    um so the feelings associated with imposter syndrome

    497

    00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:33,133

    I equate to paper tigers because

    498

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    the idea of them is often scarier than the reality

    499

    00:19:36,766 --> 00:19:39,333

    and paper tigers can't hurt us

    500

    00:19:39,333 --> 00:19:39,966

    uh so

    501

    00:19:39,966 --> 00:19:42,666

    here are some tips to help overcome imposter syndrome

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    No. 1 get to know your craft

    503

    00:19:44,933 --> 00:19:49,466

    so you want to prepare for what you have going on

    504

    00:19:49,466 --> 00:19:51,233

    and in front of you the best you can

    505

    00:19:51,266 --> 00:19:53,933

    you want to do whatever it takes to set yourself up

    506

    00:19:53,933 --> 00:19:56,400

    for success and whether that means

    507

    00:19:56,400 --> 00:19:57,266

    or reading a book

    508

    00:19:57,266 --> 00:19:59,500

    or reaching out to connect with a mentor that can help

    509

    00:19:59,500 --> 00:20:00,700

    you take a class

    510

    00:20:00,700 --> 00:20:01,566

    watch YouTube video

    511

    00:20:01,566 --> 00:20:04,366

    there's so many resources out there that are free

    512

    00:20:04,500 --> 00:20:06,133

    that you can learn and grow from

    513

    00:20:06,133 --> 00:20:07,000

    there's really no

    514

    00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,333

    excuse why you shouldn't be an expert in

    515

    00:20:09,333 --> 00:20:12,333

    in what you want to do and what you want to go for

    516

    00:20:12,333 --> 00:20:15,066

    so show up the best you can

    517

    00:20:15,066 --> 00:20:16,533

    for example if you're an accountant

    518

    00:20:16,533 --> 00:20:17,766

    and you wake up one day

    519

    00:20:17,766 --> 00:20:19,566

    and you decide you wanna be a creative director

    520

    00:20:19,566 --> 00:20:23,966

    and manage a team of designers at a ad agency cool

    521

    00:20:23,966 --> 00:20:25,133

    do that um

    522

    00:20:25,133 --> 00:20:28,500

    but also maybe learn Photoshop first

    523

    00:20:28,533 --> 00:20:30,900

    that might be a good step in the right direction okay

    524

    00:20:30,900 --> 00:20:33,533

    No. 2 keep those receipts

    525

    00:20:33,533 --> 00:20:35,066

    and what I mean by that is

    526

    00:20:35,066 --> 00:20:38,366

    you should keep a folder or maybe an in your notes app

    527

    00:20:38,366 --> 00:20:41,266

    um so you can write down all your tangible wins

    528

    00:20:41,266 --> 00:20:44,100

    that remind you of the facts behind your achievements

    529

    00:20:44,100 --> 00:20:47,200

    um degrees you've got awards you've received

    530

    00:20:47,266 --> 00:20:48,500

    when you experience self doubt

    531

    00:20:48,500 --> 00:20:50,366

    you can take a peek at these notes

    532

    00:20:50,366 --> 00:20:53,266

    just to remind yourself what you've done

    533

    00:20:53,766 --> 00:20:55,733

    just so you can validate yourself that yes

    534

    00:20:55,733 --> 00:20:57,500

    you are deserving of this success

    535

    00:20:57,500 --> 00:20:58,800

    so I've actually had a Yay

    536

    00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:00,133

    me folder in my email

    537

    00:21:00,133 --> 00:21:02,766

    where I would put all the acknowledgements from

    538

    00:21:03,100 --> 00:21:05,100

    colleagues who told me I did a good job on a project

    539

    00:21:05,100 --> 00:21:07,000

    or just thank me for my help

    540

    00:21:07,133 --> 00:21:09,066

    and it was just kind of nice to have

    541

    00:21:09,766 --> 00:21:10,900

    and then separately

    542

    00:21:10,900 --> 00:21:14,600

    I believe you get back what you put out into the world

    543

    00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,100

    so do yourself a favor and after this episode

    544

    00:21:17,100 --> 00:21:19,466

    send an email or a text or a voice note

    545

    00:21:19,466 --> 00:21:21,500

    uh to someone um

    546

    00:21:21,700 --> 00:21:24,533

    you care about calling a friend and just like

    547

    00:21:24,533 --> 00:21:26,200

    tell them that they're doing great

    548

    00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:27,733

    at whatever it is they're doing

    549

    00:21:27,733 --> 00:21:30,500

    um if they've made a big impact on you because 1

    550

    00:21:30,500 --> 00:21:32,266

    it's just it's a nice thing to do

    551

    00:21:32,266 --> 00:21:33,100

    but two

    552

    00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:36,666

    that person who is reading or listening back to that

    553

    00:21:36,700 --> 00:21:38,066

    that can turn their whole day around

    554

    00:21:38,066 --> 00:21:39,300

    so it's you know

    555

    00:21:39,533 --> 00:21:41,400

    spread the love No. 3

    556

    00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,800

    lean on colleagues uh

    557

    00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:44,533

    lean on colleagues

    558

    00:21:44,533 --> 00:21:47,700

    or somebody you trust who has achieved more than you

    559

    00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,866

    um it could be someone in a higher position above you

    560

    00:21:50,866 --> 00:21:52,366

    or even just a really accomplished

    561

    00:21:52,366 --> 00:21:53,566

    friend that you respect

    562

    00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,200

    they can share some insights of their own

    563

    00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:57,866

    from their perspective

    564

    00:21:57,866 --> 00:21:59,966

    and that could really help validate your concerns

    565

    00:21:59,966 --> 00:22:00,500

    um

    566

    00:22:00,500 --> 00:22:03,366

    and share perspective that brings you back to reality

    567

    00:22:03,366 --> 00:22:04,600

    where yes

    568

    00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,300

    you can do this and yes you do deserve this

    569

    00:22:07,700 --> 00:22:10,000

    next remind yourself of the bigger picture

    570

    00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:10,900

    okay so earlier

    571

    00:22:10,900 --> 00:22:13,066

    I shared my own thoughts of self doubt

    572

    00:22:13,066 --> 00:22:14,000

    that I struggled with

    573

    00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:15,666

    just around publishing this podcast

    574

    00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,766

    but I took myself out of that equation

    575

    00:22:17,766 --> 00:22:18,566

    and

    576

    00:22:19,133 --> 00:22:21,000

    I believe that creating this

    577

    00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,866

    and sharing my experiences and embarrassing stories uh

    578

    00:22:23,866 --> 00:22:24,966

    just to connect with you as

    579

    00:22:24,966 --> 00:22:27,900

    as audience even if 4 people tune into this

    580

    00:22:27,900 --> 00:22:29,266

    and one of them is my mom

    581

    00:22:29,266 --> 00:22:30,466

    it doesn't matter uh

    582

    00:22:30,466 --> 00:22:31,766

    I can be delulu

    583

    00:22:31,766 --> 00:22:34,600

    enough to believe that my intention and my message is

    584

    00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,066

    bigger than my fear

    585

    00:22:36,066 --> 00:22:38,533

    and that's my truth uh

    586

    00:22:38,533 --> 00:22:39,666

    and I hope it is yours too

    587

    00:22:39,666 --> 00:22:41,466

    so I genuinely hope

    588

    00:22:41,466 --> 00:22:43,133

    you take that spark that you have in you

    589

    00:22:43,133 --> 00:22:44,400

    and you run with it

    590

    00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,366

    because you never know what you can accomplish

    591

    00:22:46,366 --> 00:22:48,866

    if you just show up and give it a shot

    592

    00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:52,433

    so cheers to you and that's it for this week's episode

    593

    00:22:52,666 --> 00:22:55,066

    next time on jeans with a blazer

    594

    00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,500

    so life is full of setbacks

    595

    00:22:58,500 --> 00:23:01,600

    and our careers are no exception

    596

    00:23:01,766 --> 00:23:04,466

    I have had my fair share of failures

    597

    00:23:04,466 --> 00:23:06,233

    and falling flat on my face

    598

    00:23:06,366 --> 00:23:07,933

    but the thing about that is

    599

    00:23:07,933 --> 00:23:10,900

    being able to pick yourself up after you fall

    600

    00:23:10,900 --> 00:23:13,566

    is a super powerful skill

    601

    00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,333

    so in this episode by the end of it

    602

    00:23:17,333 --> 00:23:22,333

    you'll have a literal blueprint for how to bounce back

    603

    00:23:22,333 --> 00:23:25,466

    adapt and just rebuild stronger

    604

    00:23:25,466 --> 00:23:28,333

    after you've had a setback or a failure

    605

    00:23:28,333 --> 00:23:30,400

    and you're not feeling great about it

    606

    00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,933

    I'll also give you some tips for working through

    607

    00:23:32,933 --> 00:23:34,566

    and processing all of that

    608

    00:23:35,300 --> 00:23:37,600

    so let's get into it

    609

    00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,800

    that's a wrap on this episode of genes of the blazer

    610

    00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:41,333

    if today's

    611

    00:23:41,333 --> 00:23:43,200

    conversation gave you something to think about

    612

    00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,666

    a mindset shift or just the push you needed

    613

    00:23:45,666 --> 00:23:46,566

    do me a favor

    614

    00:23:46,566 --> 00:23:49,400

    subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode

    615

    00:23:49,566 --> 00:23:51,900

    leave a review wherever you enjoy your podcasts

    616

    00:23:51,900 --> 00:23:53,400

    it helps more people find it

    617

    00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:55,866

    and it keeps these conversations going

    618

    00:23:55,866 --> 00:23:57,600

    and I love hearing from you

    619

    00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,266

    follow at genes of the blazer

    620

    00:23:59,266 --> 00:24:01,466

    and tag me with your biggest takeaways

    621

    00:24:01,466 --> 00:24:02,333

    your latest wins

    622

    00:24:02,333 --> 00:24:04,966

    or just tell me what topics you wanna hear about next

    623

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